"Everything trumps kindness." - M. K.
I wanted to know how to live my life, how to walk my path. My friend asked his wife how they should raise their children, what guiding principles. She told him that she was raised with one rule, "be kind." and everything else was just history or culture or ritual, kindness was the guiding principle.
"The problem with religion," she said, "is that everything trumps kindness."
When you meet a kind religious person it is because that person is a kind person. There is no commandment to be kind. There is no mention of kindness in the ten commandments. Parents cut off relationships with their child who married out, or won't eat at a function because they keep a different hechsher. If you are religious, every rule and ritual trumps kindness.
I would rather be kind and raise my children to be kind and let them connect to their history and culture through the prism of humanity then through an unyeilding uncompromising rulebook.